In this life, moral responsibility will offer you far, far more than even being able to regain what you may have lost, even following reconciliation. You can't have it both ways. I do not expect anything from people. Most often it takes more than two relationships to find your life partner. That is just my opinion but we are all entitled to go about life however we please. Nothing has ever been more important than that. I hate to have to point out common sense to you, but obviously. Awesome! I am 31 years Employers, colleges, every institution we have asks about past because it matters. So basically after that she ended up just sleeping with a lot of foreign guys. Like I said before, we can just agree to disagree on this one. We have had this conversation. Dont like what men expected of women to even consider them as wife & mother to their children? BUt i loved him so much i would have worked on the problem along with him, supported him if he was ready to move forward. Women, on the other hand, are the gatekeeper to their bodies, because of the risk in any sexual encounter. You should have an idea that its not a good look. Not Females, you shall not fornicate. We all spout platitudes about what our beliefs are, and often, these can be idealized versions of who we wish we were. So lets say you meet a woman and start to date her. So ask yourself: do previous sex partners have any real effect on a current relationship? It is very refreshing to read something like this. There are MANY self-respecting women with discipline and restraint who love sex, but have a low number of partners. She had sex .. Study other animals the female usually has more sex than the male. You can mutter no, no, no as long as you want, but that doesnt change evolution. I said okwell its actually 40 something. Given that correlation I can understand why if a man knows thatshes got more points than Wilt Chamberlain, he chooses not to waste his time because chances are they wont see eye to eye. If a guy was to meet me he would never guess my number is so high because its all about how I carry myself. Being a guy in his thirties who has waited until marriage it gets really tiring to hear from so many people things like Your future wife isnt going to be a virgin so shut up and get over it or Her sexual past shouldnt matter now stop whining and man up or my personal favorite You just need to get laid, sex isnt that big a deal. Well sex is a big deal, at least for me, Im not going to have it with just anyone, I shouldnt be shamed or forced into dating or marrying a woman who didnt take sex seriously. Don't throw something good away without really trying to make . It only hurts her to vent. So its reasonable to treat number of partners as risk factor it seems. Ladies need to just respect themselves overall. Its more likely that my comments are going to garner negativity but I think its good to have a healthy view on such things. I totally agree with the double standards. What I am saying is I dont feel it is best to allow that to overshadow everything else that is great about this woman and the fact that you believe she is best from you (aside from a possible past you arent too happy about). Why? He settled down and married his partner, Gabriella Wesberry, in 2010, the same year that Simply Red broke up after two and half decades together. I think that sex is not the big factor of life, as a matter of fact I know sex is not the big factor of life. So now u, a faithful man, deal with this truth and your surroundings are people fixated on sex. My guy friend in #1 is doing exactly that. Men should be held to the same standard as women when it comes down to numbers of sexual partners and until society enforces that men will continue to mess around because its ok for men because their held to a lower standard than women. I will never marry a girl who waspromiscuousin the past. THATS WHY YOU CANT ADMIT IT. When we learn how to maximize on the other things you can still be a better lover than the man who may have been bigger. I love this woman and to make her feel secure I cut ties with all my girlfriends and avoided all women actually. End of story. We know how to say nothat is intended for the knuckle-dragging Neanderthals out there who have a standard. Sometimes, you will find its not good for you at all. Always feel free to express yourself on my blog because even in disagreement the discussion can be good and productive. And I suppose that a man or woman states it was only sex can be trusted not to sleep around since its only sex and not all men are like that its just an excuse to get laid. Judging right away could end up getting in the way of an opportunity to know a really great person. I must have placed my comment in the wrong area so Ill place it here too. Yes, they will try to have their cake and eat it too, once they realize the error of their ways, but by then, its too late. For rich or for poor.. Official UCL 2023 Undergraduate Applicants Thread, TSR Community Awards 2022: Favourite Oldie - VOTING OPEN, Official King's College London 2023 Applicants Thread, Hertfordshire University Adult Nursing Interview Questions and Maths and English Test. It matters. She thought she could convince me to change my mind, but the longer we dated, the more I became convinced that, regardless of how well we connected, I could never see her as a wife or the mother of my childrendue to her sluttiness and the fact she allowed herself to be used as a piece of sexual meat. Lets say the conversation never came up about # of sex partners. So, wat about da age do it matter? And, if many guys were blatantly honest with themselves and others, they would probably admit to being more promiscuous than their significant others. You have a handful of female experience and all you do is wonder about her past. You sir, are that stupid guy in this instance. Hey Mike. It is one thing if you say I dont want to be with a woman who is currently promiscuous vs. overlooking a woman who currently does not engage in all that, but once upon a time she was on that path. you may have some serious issues and I would say that its too many. It is difficult for women like that to pair-bond. You already know what the homies are saying. Im 26 years old and have never given myself to anyone. Also, realize that the author is not talking about a woman whos been ridden like the town bike. Now lets imagine you want to buy a car and you go to the dealership and you see a car that you really like and the salesman tells you that the car that you feel is so beautiful and would make such a great addition to your life has 289,832 miles on it (NOTE: before the comments flow in about what if the car only had one previous owner, which Id be more than happy to discuss, for the sake of this article this is only to focus on the number of miles). Others may have been dealing with some deep issues and did not know how to properly handle it. And, yet, came to this earth and mankind to serve and not to be served. You live and you learn and then hopefully you do better, so if someone has slept with 99 different people, that doesnt mean there doesnt come a point in their lives where they are ready to settle and be in a committed relationship with just one. Ive broken hearts and have been burned myself. PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues, specifically those pertaining to /r/TheBluePill and /r/TheRedPill. And, remember, Neighbor, even one sex act outside of or before marriage is considered promiscuous and, definitely sinful for males or females in His eyes. When you really love of course aftewards they feel like trash, or are so cold that they lack feelings completely. someone else. and that he cannot get over my past even though I had everything he had been looking for. Just settle because the other person isnt perfect. I want to dedicate long term to this girl as that is what I like to do when I commit to a relationship but I'm terrified that I will end up wasting a large amount of time on a girl who will end up cheating on me or blowing up in my face. And even if they do, Im not going to be there to find out. Shadow Hunter-Stay in Touch. Big breasts which are an indication of youth (because old ones sag), long hair which is a sign of health (because malnourished people have brittle hair that breaks off), hourglass figure, high cheek bones, and pouty lips (all signs of high estrogen or fertility). So when a man does commit, he wanted to ensure that the woman he was investing his time and resources in was bearing his own children so that his genes were the ones being passed on and not other other mans child. Its an individual thing as to how they perceive themselves. Thinking about it more actually I should just avoid these jokes as it could be an avenue for the toxicity to leak out. Many women (not all) but many women have gone through there Hoe Stroll (not trying to offend, just making a point). It would best be done in the hide ourselves in does not preclude that: it is a make or break answer. Not because I say so but because His Word says so. On the other side of the fence, as a woman, I wouldnt want to subject my future partner to having any kind of issues with the number of men Ive slept with. Today, the women are the same. Since both of these experiences run down the same spinal nerve, it intensifies the feelings. FloralHybrid. Plenty of respectable women do not live their youths as sluts, and it is THESE women who deserve our time, investment, and energies; not the sluts. Im just happy you were open minded enough to actually read it again and see where I was coming from. So, somebody who has raped a person years agoshouldnt have that counted againstthem because that isnt who they really are now? Women lie period. When we do that the message continues to live on. Do you think she Will she affected by my departure? So get that un fair stuff out of here! last I will say is women can go abt sleeping, its okay if thats What u want We are happy. Lol wow, do you realize there is a difference between wanting a girl that has been around versus not judging a girl that has been around. Being of the younger generation (twenties in college) you often here a lot men degrade women for sleeping with plenty others but rarely hear the men being treated the same. Life goes on and if they are not insomeones oh well. No one wants to date or marry a hoe. I choose to try not do that. interact. Im done now . Wild oats = sewn. Consider your 20s your best years is VERY subjective. Some guys are really looking for that one who has waited. (one-nighters) out of the 19 people Ive had sex with that I didnt get to I completely understand your position but he is where our views differ. Maybe you would feel like you have one over on other people because you have confines of marriages, or at least committed, loving relationships at the Everyone has the right to judge and they WILL until the end of time as we know it and there is not damn thing wrong with it!!! This statement makes no sense. Everything else Ive suggest stems from this- respect. I just still think we have to evaluate that person for who they are now, or in many cases just trust GOD if you feel he has told you this is the woman for you. I KNOW that I am not missing out on anything. Good, glad to know my position is clear. Would you rather a girl lie to you or tell you the truth? So lets be perfect in a less than perfect world and provide a few undeniable examples: Your RENT is due and it is $800 and you only have $620Do you have the right or wrong amount??? And the truth is most men wont like it. I am one who believes people can evolve and they can change. Who has moved. I dated a woman most wouldn't consider a beauty, but she was smart and funny and great in bed. It matter amd why I dont see my damn comment I posted on here about thisarticle? Yeah so shut up lol. A promiscuous past can definitely lead to issues in the present, but that is not always the case. What did that really change? But it will be in the back of your mind. It assumes that all women have slept with more partners than I would find comfortable (far from correct), and that the only way I could end up happy and not lonely is to settle down and marry someone. Some of them are alright but it seems like some sleazy fucking dudes thrown into the mix. As one commenter posted, were all adults so I say do as you please. Mentally.not so much. Also, punctuation would help. Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (The Course), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (The Membership), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (Course), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (Membership), Cheat code to a fulfilling long lasting relationship. but come on now. I don't see any way that telling her my feelings about this ends well. There is no double standard at all. This is a trite platitude devoid of meaning. There are a lot more incidents which i wont get into for the sake of keeping this short. standard to societys other ills; Honey, yes, I raped a couple of Now lets imagine you want to buy a car and you go to the dealership and you see a car that you really like and the salesman tells you that the car that you feel is so beautiful and would make such a great addition to your life has 289,832 miles on it (NOTE: before the comments flow in about what if the car only had one previous owner, which I'd be more than happy to discuss, for the sake of this article this is only to focus on the number of miles). Whores will always be Whores no matter how you look at it. 3) Psychological and Emotional problems (Most of the time promiscuous people are wildly insecure about themselves and or bad judges of character) Not always, but often. To ride is free. My friend hoes often do not look like hoes.. but they still are According to studies the chance of divorce strongly correlates Continue Reading Lawrence C. FinTech Enthusiast, Expert Investor, Finance at Masterworks Updated Thu Choosing to have however many partners you want does not mean that you do not have self respect. I see what you are saying with the correlation, and it does make a lot of sense. Fortunately for me he had an affair Being promiscuous is bad for both men and women. Sex is suppose to be something special between two people not the neighborhood. Altamera74, from a chicks point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner. So when u have kids a small part of another mans DNA is in your kids. Same boat. You can believe what you wish, and if this works for you my friend then by all means continue as you are. Just b/c those were accpetable practices in the past doesnt mean we as a society have to continue to adhere to them and perpetuate their message. Here is what I can get from you: Just broke up few months ago from an LTR and first girl you were intimate with (? you do? Oh Hell no!!! She's not who she's going to be, young women can be very insecure. Past is in the past? Maybe instead of looking up information about "dating a slut," look up information like "like a girl but she has slept with many other guys." no. So dont judge her based on a number, evaluate her based on the woman she is today. Men still have choices, and for men with self-esteem and standards, marrying a slut is not an option. My body doesn't want anyone else when I love someone. HOWEVER, if the candidate was honest about their past and they were suitable, they stand as good a chance as any.. lose this person, they are exactly what you were looking for and they actually Whether you question it or not is irrelevant. 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